Raising Securely Attached Kids: Using Connection-Focused Parenting to Create Confidence, Empathy, and Resilience

Create a secure emotional bond with your children—for a close, fulfilling parent-child relationship that lasts a lifetime.

Therapist and wildly popular attachment research expert Eli Harwood (@attachmentnerd) illuminates attachment theory as foundational to the only parenting approach proven to have a lasting impact.

How do you raise confident, resilient, and empathetic children so they become adults with a secure attachment style? 

The first ingredient needed is a trusting and connected relationship. When children feel seen, heard, and supported, all the other parenting tips and tricks start to work. 

In this essential guide for parents across the age spectrum, author Eli Harwood shares what attachment theory—the science that explores the innate human need to bond with other humans—says about helping our children learn, grow, and thrive. Through making complex attachment research accessible, she provides a practical road map to the only parenting approach proven to have lasting positive impact.

When you parent with connection in mind, trust and a safe emotional bond develops, which is key to help kids self-regulate according to the most advanced relationship science today. This book includes strategies and practice scripts for navigating tricky terrain, Nerd Alert! sections to help explain the science, and personal windows into connection-focused parenting.

Most parenting books are focused on changing unwanted behaviors, but this book is unlike anything else out there: it'll update and upgrade other parenting approaches to make parenting for a lifetime of connection actually fun.

About the Author

ELI HARWOOD is a licensed therapist who lives in Colorado with her husband, Trevor, and their three children. Eli has been nerding out on attachment research for the past two decades, through clinical work,  writing, and running her mouth on social media.

Author Residence: Denver, Colorado